Ways to Boost Your Confidence as a Mom in Nine Simple Actions

Looking into how you parent and how you feel about yourself can be challenging. Are you looking for ways to boost and build up your confidence as a mom?

Becoming a parent, no matter how you think you are prepared, there’ll be an impression of doubt within yourself in your parenting. You may even question yourself if you are equipped to face the challenges of being a new parent.

There are ways you can incorporate in your life to gain confidence in being a mom and boost yourself as the ride begins. You can start by examining yourself on how you feel about your role as a mom.

When the hard questions start to roll:

• How confident are you in becoming a mom?
• What are the pressing issues that you have as a mom?
• Are there any obstacles that you’ve overcome?
• What are the experiences that make you proud of yourself in parenting?
• How is your relationship with your child?
• In becoming a new parent, what were your emotions?

These questions are simply a few of the many that moms have. However, doing some deep reflection of yourself and how you feel about your parenting will open up issues that may need to be addressed.

When I became a mom for the first time, I wasn’t confident. I nearly question every single choice and put my parenting under a microscope. I didn’t slip into mothering naturally, to be honest.

After almost 12 years of parenting under my belt, I’m more settled and confident in how I parent and how I feel about it. What others think of my parenting isn’t a focus of my mothering days anymore. Instead, I do what feels suitable for my kids and me.

So here I am sharing and listing some tips to help build you up and become confident in your parenting.

Here are Nine Ways to Boost your Confidence as a New Mom

1. Encourage yourself.

Initially, believing that you can do it will help you gain new confidence through experience. Then, as a new parent, that trust will root in how you see and trust yourself to achieve the goals you’ve set as a mom.

I know it’s easier said than done.

Drawbacks can arise, and it’s not going to derail you in your quest to build confidence. Whenever you feel like a total failure on some days – don’t beat yourself up. Brush yourself off this time and learn from any parenting obstacle.

Setting up realistic expectations as a mom will allow you to be flexible and practical with your mothering skills. Life can get tough as you continue to grow into motherhood and, more so, even adjust when your nest becomes empty. 

Every mom learns along the way; there isn’t one answer to all the questions that occupy her mind every day.

So every move and each choice you make in parenting – focus on what you can do now – appreciate the process, plan for tomorrow and remain steadfast within you.

2. Gather more baby knowledge.

There isn’t a perfect manual in becoming a parent; heck, there isn’t a manual at all when it comes to parenting/raising your kid.

Yes, you can read plenty of parenting books and parenting classes you can join nowadays. In addition, your detective and researching skills will be heightened as you take on your new role. 

So, it’s good to boost your knowledge about baby’s development, what to expect, remedies in kids’ common ailments, and such. By doing so, you are more secured in handling new situations around you and your baby. 

You can not go wrong with equipping yourself with information to help your parenting journey. But, as always said, time and time again, experience is the best teacher. The same as parenting, you learn as you go through it, retain what works and change what didn’t.

3. Choose the advice you want to take.

As you navigate motherhood, parenting advice floods in from well-meaning friends, in-laws, your parents, co-workers, and such.

Their advice can give you more insight on both sides as to what you think is best for you and your kids. It doesn’t mean you’ll have to follow them; take them as a guide. Whatever advice that doesn’t align with what you believe and think is for your kids’ best interest and safety, you can keep them on the sideline. 

You decide what you do- you’re the parent. You know yourself and your kids, and you definitely know what works and what doesn’t.

Please don’t dwell on parenting battles with whoever; they’re not the parent of your kids. At the end of the day, the mom who gets to go home with your kids is you. You’re the one whom your kids need.

Criticisms can be hard to hear, especially from moms who are already ahead of the game. It might throw you off your path sometimes. Brush it off. Don’t get caught up in the battle of all other know-it-all moms. 

Stick with the values you uphold and your decisions; if changes need to happen, you can be flexible enough to do it.

4. Listen to your mom gut.

This one goes with #3 as you take what you feel is best in the course you’re in, listen to your own instinct. 

Following your parental instinct is an intrinsic trait you do have. By doing so, you become confident in your actions. Moms rely on our instincts whether we are newly delivered or already an experienced mom. 

Remember, the times when your kid felt sick, and you brought your child to an ER, you get brushed off sometimes that it isn’t severe, only to find out it was after you’ve already left. 

We have the innate motherly voice that tells us – it just doesn’t seem right, and we push for further actions. 

I’ve been there myself. I always feel like I’m overboard, but in the end, it is my child, and their best interest is my priority. 

As a mom, I’d prefer to be on the safe side than be on the regret side. Yes, I’m a nurse, but I’m a mom first. I do everything I can at home to remedy any ailment, injury, etc. However, you’ll know in your heart when it’s time to see the doctor or visit the ER. 

5. Practice positive self-talk can help boost your confidence as a mom.

Why do we need positive self-talk? This practice helps us regain control of the flow in our lives. So we don’t linger around negative thoughts and overcome negative issues trying to crawl out of our space.

Positive thoughts bring positive emotions and boost our worthiness and confidence. 

Of course, we can never negate all negative flow; however, we can reroute our thoughts and actions away from it. We have the will to choose what we feed our minds and what we allow ourselves to feel. 

I ‘m not saying for you not to feel these emotions; I’m saying find ways to cope positively and seek help when you get overwhelmed. 

You can be mindful of everything within and around you. Also, you can reflect on what you can do to make it better. So dive deep into your emotions and keep an eye on the everyday maternal mental stress that can occur anytime.

6. Reach out to your kids’ doctor.

Taking in information from the experts can help you support your quest to gain more confidence in your parenting.

Through that information, you can stretch the knowledge you’ve acquired about your kid’s development and health. So do your research and be informed.

There may be instances that you’ll doubt yourself or not follow the recommendations. However, you as a parent have this choice. 

Additionally, being informed and knowing the facts – you can freely choose what’s best for your situation at a given moment. No kids are identical, even twin siblings. You parent your kid according to what you think is for the best. 

7. Create a supportive mom circle as your village.

Over time as you develop your mothering, there’ll be times you will also rely on your village. Other moms who have been there and moms are going through the same situation as you, although different.

You share your joys of motherhood, and you carry the burdens of the journey – together with your circle. Basically, you don’t have to do this alone.

Learning when to raise the flag and ask for help is a big step. 

When you learn other moms’ situations and see how they handle such matters – you get an insider’s perspective. You also extend your support to those moms in need and strengthen bonds among your circle.

Having a strong support system is essential for moms. You can strengthen your confidence knowing you have fallback support when the going gets tough. 

8. Embrace the journey head-on and hold on.

Mothering is not an easy feat. There’s never a dull moment; you are always on the go. 

Your kids change in season, they grow up, they become more independent as the years come. You also need to adjust to these changes to handle the new season of your motherhood gracefully. 

Hold on to those tender moments of parenting, the feeling when your kid flourishes in front of your eyes. Enjoy those moments. Be brave in facing any challenges along the way of your parenting.

Parenting can be messy, and I honestly can say it’s hard. No one denies that absolute fact. Yet, these too shall pass, your doubts will turn into a firm stance, your confidence will soar high as you learn from experience, and you adjust accordingly.

9. Get inspiration from God’s words.

Starting your day with a prayer and reading His words will give you guidance in your parenting. Leaning on His plans for you helps you become centered in the daily grind of motherhood. 

You can rest assured that His words will not fail you. There’s always a lesson behind everything you’re going through and will go through. From there, your confidence will not fall nor become frail. 

Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.

1 Peter 5:2-3 NIV

Finding ways to boost your confidence as a Mom in whatever season you’re in.

Your motherhood journey is your own. However, the lessons you gain from your experience will immensely help build your confidence in parenting.

Working on yourself and solidifying your self-esteem can also aid in the growth of being a confident mom. Stand tall for yourself and take pride in your own mothering.

In sum, boost your confidence as a mom through encouraging yourself, picking what advice to take, listening to your gut, and boosting your knowledge. Plus, practicing positive self-talk, reaching out to the experts, creating your circle, taking in your journey, and trusting God’s word.

As time continues to roll, you will grow steadily on your own and be the confident mom you’ve set to be. 

What are ways you do to help build up your confidence as a mom? Do you feel like your parenting isn’t enough? Would you mind sharing your story to help another mom out there?

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