Intentional Motherhood: Mothering with Purpose
Intentional Motherhood is something to focus on nowadays to keep yourself in line with your personal and family values. It is being prepared, pausing to think before responding, and prioritizing what matters. This parenting way falls under the lines of Intentional Parenting
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As I sat quietly typing about this particular post, I couldn’t help but think about where I was in my mothering. I’m still in the depths of learning through parenting, truth be told. But, my motherhood walk is what it is for my kids and myself.
The values that I hold myself accountable for act as guards to my mothering heart and definitely keeping me on my toes.
You asked yourself, do this situation you’re in, and your reaction, really matter? Had you responded differently last time, would it do any good? Are you distracted that you miss some opportunities to connect with your kids?
What does it take to parent with intention?
What are your expectations in the way you parent? Is there a particular type of parenting you are most leaning into? These questions are what helps you sort out your reasons for the way you parent your kids.
So, when you take time to identify the core values; you want your children to learn and practice, you willfully model them every day. But, mainly, being focused on your parenting mission can assist you in how to become intentional in your mothering.
You carve your own path by centering yourself with purpose, genuinely connecting yourself with your kids, and most especially relying on yourself to parent your kids the way you intend to.
You are not getting influenced by outside your circle or comparing yourself to other moms. Instead, practice what’s right for you and your kids – what intentional motherhood is all about.
You parent your kids to create a meaningful impact on their lives and yourself as well. As you go about your day, the long list of to-dos is infinite.
In completing your daily list, find the approach that works on achieving them. So your time and energy are used efficiently. You also become intentional with spending time with your kids, and you find ways to complete those tasks at hand.
Doing what’s needed at home at the same time being attentive to kids. For me, it helps me create purposeful daily routines by scribbling them down and checking them off. Although, it doesn’t automatically mean I have crossed everything off the list, or at least I try to at the end of the day.
How to Become Intentional in Motherhood?
1. Your connection with your kids.
Ask yourself if something is lacking. How can you fill the gap in creating a powerful connection? When you mother purposely, you strengthen the bond. Additionally, your kids’ need for love and belongingness is met as they grow and develop.
Taking the time to listen to what your kids have to say about their day or activity. Get down on their level to share each moment, and they’ll see that you are invested in them wholeheartedly.
Initiate time to celebrate any positive behavior around your home. Verbally acknowledge your kids’ actions or words that promote core family values.
When my kids are sharing and helping out each other, we point out those moments and celebrate them. These simple acknowledgments will encourage more like behaviors shown by your kids.
2. Putting yourself ahead.
Yes, you read it right. As you establish a priority on caring for yourself, you’ll be able to care for others. The daily strains in your mom life won’t rattle your drive to nurture. Moreover, doing planned self-care can help you reach your own mothering goals.
Intend to create time for yourself. Find some realistic self-care tips to integrate into your busy life. One or two flexible enough to squeeze in without feeling guilty for taking a mommy time out.
Consciously caring for yourself emotionally can prevent you from getting resentful of the people or things around you. So first, I put a time block for the times when mothering moments can get demanding. Then I reset myself as the situation began to calm down.
More reading on self-care: Self-Care Tips for Working Moms
3. Believe that you can.
Seeds of doubt that settle deep can hugely affect the way you parent your kids. You may be in a situation where you parent in fear, shame, or worse, guilt. Don’t let these shadows stop you. Self-condemnation is the culprit of negative parenting.
Open your mind to the great possibility of parenting with a positive purpose.
Commit to intentionally get there every day, even if some days aren’t just going your way. Believe that you’re chosen to mother these kids and that you’re someone who can mold them into better individuals and as members of society.
Instilling good personal values in them and centering themselves with love and kindness.
4. Keep your life simple through intentional motherhood.
Don’t overbook yourself. Don’t drown in chaos. Streamline what you need to keep your daily living simplified. You consciously carve out more precious time for you and your kids to spend.
Your responsibilities and duties at home, at work, and all other branches in your life can get prioritized within the topmost MUST-DO that day. You DO NOT have to do it all, no matter how you think you’re failing.
Take a step back and slow down. Eliminate distractions that can hinder fulfilling your mothering intentions. When we don’t intentionally pause, it’s effortless to get side swept by bits and pieces that can compromise connections with our family.
5. As mothers, we all have our village.
Your spouse is your immediate lifeline in the primary circle. All others being dependent on who you let in the boundaries of your perimeter. Some days it can get exhausting. But, having someone acknowledging and validating your feelings without judgment is more than enough.
Sometimes, you don’t need advice. But, mostly, all you need is someone to listen.
Communication is vital when you are drowning in all that you’re supposed to rejoice in motherhood. So express what you need at the moment. Don’t expect your village to read your mind. Instead, make your intentions known when asking for advice or help.
To adopt intentional motherhood is to accept it’s a journey.
All in all, mothering isn’t a race to who ends up perfect at the finish line. Mothering with intentions does not have to be complicated.
But let’s be honest, nobody has a perfect score. We can all learn from each other. You are perfectly validated when you don’t love mothering every second.
Additionally, mothers don’t only have positive feelings towards being a mom. But also, the vulnerability of having negative emotions is lurking closer than you thought.
Positive, intentional motherhood takes you to a different kind of mothering journey.
This process involves setting purposeful goals and strengthening your connection with your kids. In addition, embracing yourself with care, simplifying your life, and reaching out to your circle.
When I switched gears, it’s making a profound impression on my mothering these days. Yet, I don’t expect everyone to fall right into place in mothering with intentions. It takes willingness, patience, and humility to do so, and to which I could use some more in my motherhood lessons every day.
This method of mothering with purpose is another route for any mother to walk on. I hope that every mom who’s willing to be intentional in their mothering will flourish. Therefore, find more meaning and purpose in their journey.
Once you decide to parent with intention, I challenge you to discover ways that work for you.
Search within you – what you truly desire and what outcome you want to achieve. Then, look to these steps for guidance when you’re unsure where to begin in mothering with purpose.
In the end, you’re a mother who wants what’s best for her kids and wants to build a solid relationship with them.
Let me know in the comments what goals you’ve set for yourself to mother intentionally. What are the steps you are embracing to reach these mothering goals? Thanks for being here.
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